Are you putting yourself first?
There is a lie that a lot of people tell themselves. That lie is that they need to sacrifice yourself because “you have people depending on you.”
This is an amazing lie that lets people not put themselves out there and take chances. By using “the people depending on you” as an excuse, you can settle into a nasty rut and stay there forever. The fact is that by staying in that rut, you are actually doing precisely what you are stating that you want to avoid. You are failing the people around you, just very slowly.
When it comes to taking care of people, the first person you have to pay attention to is yourself. Then once you have managed that, you can be in a place to truly help those that are depending on you. While it may seem that it is selfish, in fact, it is the most altruistic thing you can do to take care of yourself first.